Beyond Doctrine-7

Therefore , the person who has not forgiven or the one who feels that he cannot forgive , is severely afflicted , poisoned and full of sadness , loneliness and even of desire of revenge .

This is really mortal since the person who does not forgive , then , makes the conflict to grow , to magnify and in turn he is tortured .

Forgiveness is directly related to many circumstances which are very painful . The pain , the rage , the frustration have to be overcome , otherwise life will become a perpetual conflict . And we do not want to experience this . We do not want to be filled with more bitterness and hatred , we have to be free of all this . For forgiveness to really happen , we must look not only for psychological help but also the center of the forgiveness has to come from God Himself . If God does not allow us to forgive , we may say it , or promise it or look for it but it will not last...continued>